I'm
a firm believer in lists, post it's, inspiration boards and posters.
My kitchen walls are a collage of such. Whatever I am trying to work
on in my life and parenting I write up so when I retrieve my head
from a cupboard I am more grounded in my intentions to GROW in LOVE
with my child!
This
grubby scrap of paper, held up by jubilant alphabet magnets, is like
my pause and recharge portal. I like its clarity - and since I will
be soon leaving my house I thought I'd better post it up here to
remember! It is an extract (which I've tweaked a bit) from 'Toxic
Parents', and helps me to feel both the simplicity and love-centred
depth of what is asked of me as a mother.
For
Love to Grow:
Children
must be fed, clothed, sheltered and protected.
Feelings
must be nurtured
emotionally, their feelings respected and
treated in a way that allows them to develop their self
worth.
Give
appropriate limits on behaviour, allowing them to make
mistakes, and to be disciplined
without being physically or emotionally abused.
Allow
them the freedom to be children – playful, spontaneous,
irresponsible.
Gift
children sincere and joyful responsibilities, as an
opportunity to grow in self love, love of environment and love of
others.
Carer's
responsibilties:
Provide
for your child's physical needs.
Protect
your child from physical harm.
Provide
for your child's need for love, attention and affection.
Protect
your child from emotional harm.
Provide
moral, ethical and loving guidelines for your child.
